By: sopranogrl22

sopranogrl22 — Fri, 02 May 2008 14:01:53 +0000

Phil, that’s perfect!!! You hit the nail right on the head…and actually helped me see things even more clearly than I did before. You’re absolutely right about being able to focus on the details and making things really count. Thanks for the awesome post! =)

By: Phil

Phil — Fri, 02 May 2008 00:33:09 +0000

Although I personally did not go to college, I can absolutely relate to the song(though it’s apartments and shared houses instead of dorm rooms). Like you said, there is a time when most people seem to feel invinsible and special, as if life will fall into place, that the old head shakers just didn’t do it right, but you yourself have found the secret. Of course we don’t realize that the security comes from the cocoon of home that we all just left or the financial blanket that one way or another allows us to do more of what we like to without worrying about rent or bills or reprecussions. Then there’s that time when you realize- “I can’t just go home when things go wrong, now I’ve got to do it on my own and it’s hard dammit!” At that point it seems as if the dreams are over, and there’s nothing left but the grindstone and a more humble variety of things to get excited about. Of course, on the one hand, as you said, the more concrete and realistic side of life presents itself, and much satisfaction aswell as fulfillment can be obtained from such activities. Still there are always-I think- going to be those times when you think, ’should I have just thrown caution to the wind and gone the way of the rockstar? have I limited my destiny?’ Well this is what I have come to think- During those times when I was dreaming, and plotting, and proffessing to future greatness I was also as changeable and unsteady, as devoid of details as most of my dreams were. When I did throw caution to the wind and go for it, I usually ended up with some crazy stories, alot of aches, feelings of disatisfaction, and the knowledge that I just didn’t quite know what to do while I was doing it. Now as a 20something with a wonderful girlfriend, a cat, alot of bills, and a full time job who looks forward to going out 1-2 times a week and more often than not ends up coming back early I have realized a few things. 1)By being more limited in what I do, I am able to really focus on details and truly imbibe each experience more fully, therefore making each small instance count for more than several “bigger” occassions. 2)That greatness and monumental achievements are most often achieved in one area and with alot of dedication. By living a humbler life I’m actually able to indulge in more of my interests thereby become a more rounded, complete individual. 3)That I still dream golden flecked and wild dreams, but now I realize that through all the small things I am gaining the experience, patience, understanding and confidence to make those dreams come fully true. So I guess my response to your question would be- Don’t mourn or write off those dreams, but know that to truly achieve them is to live much more, and in looking back, someday, you may realize that what you’ve accomplished outshines anything you could have possibly imagined sitting in the serenity of the quad or the safety of younger days, or that those dreams have become reality but with so much more to them. Well, I rambled~ Mahalo

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